Fighting the Four Types of Negative Self-Talk
This week has been emotional for me. Not only have I been working more hours then ever, but my brain and anxiety are on overdrive.NOT a good place to make business or life decisions from. Most nights this week I have gone to bed reminding myself that I will think clearer in the morning... and I always do.
I know that many of you have watched the success that I've been able to achieve over the last 6 months, and I'm working at getting even better at sharing THAT part... so that you can know that being incredibly successful and heart-centered CAN happen for you!
...but I want to keep sharing this part too, that sometimes we don't "feel" like showing up in our business, but we do it anyway. We do it for the other 90% of the time that things are pinch-me-life-is-so-good delightful. I do it because I truly adore the work I get to do walking the messy journey alongside women as they create profit in their business and purpose in their life.
But I'm here to tell you, if it sometimes feels like work, that's okay too. It's okay to set your timer and just do 10-minutes of that THING you've been avoiding. That doesn't make anything less valid. It doesn't make the voices telling you that "you're not good enough" TRUE.
Would you do this exercise with me? It's powerful.
This week I'm working to fight #4 like a boss. I'm showing up REAL in this group even when I feel like I should have it allll put together. I'm resisting the guilt for keeping what's most important, most important.→Identify the type of negative self-talk that YOU are facing this week. Recognize that it's not you, not God, not your voice... it's the negative self-talk and it's time to FIGHT IT. Tell me below what you're doing to take action against it.
1. The Worrier (promotes anxiety).
Imagines worst-case scenario, over-estimates the odds of something bad happening, waiting with apprehension for small signs of trouble "What if..."
2. The Critic (promotes low self-esteem).
Constantly judges and evaluates your behavior, pointing out flaws, jumping on mistakes, ignores positive qualities and emphasizes weaknesses and calling you a failure and other labels. "Can't you ever get it right? Look how capable ______ is"
3. The Victim (promotes depression).
The part of you that feels helpless or hopeless. It believes something is inherently wrong with you, things will never change. "I can't.. I've tried everything... I will never be able to..."
4. The Perfectionist (promotes chronic stress + burnout).
Similar to the critic, but instead of putting you down it pushes you harder. Your current efforts aren't enough, you can do better. You should have things under control/be nice etc. or I'm not worth much. "I should/I have to/I must... "(Source: The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook)PS- Here's an early video I did around these four voices here... https://youtu.be/ymcXf5g-et4